Sexual Abuse Explained
TYPES OF SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE WE CAN HELP WITH
We use a gentle, safe, efficient and quick process which doesn’t re-traumatise the client.
Recovery From Sexual assault
From ‘Surviving to Thriving’
“We have the missing key of wisdom, knowledge and advanced skills for self-healing and empowerment of sexual assault, sexual abuse and trauma. A precious gift for those who are ready to move on.
We want to spread the knowledge and offer training for practitioners.” Yildiz is the founder of Emotional Mind Integration (EMI).
” I came to Yildiz already having done many mindset practises and also a lot of energy work on two rapes I had that occurred when I was 19 and then again at 26.
These practises all helped to some degree but something still wasn’t right and I just couldn’t put my finger on it.
You know, you don’t know how deeply something effects you until you do. That may sound silly to say but it is true. For me I just dealt with it and moved on with life, saying to myself yes that happened but life goes on and people have had much worse. But it does effect you. The shame and guilt that buries itself deep inside, your interactions with people, especially men, what you wear, the hyper – alertness. It all effects you and as time goes on it gets worse.
Don’t be that person who thinks they can cope on their own, or that they don’t need help, because you do, we all do…
The trauma that my body still held really surprised me and I found Yildiz to be exceptionally skilled in guiding through the trauma, resourcing the trauma and out the other side, I felt 100% safe in her gentleness, her knowledge and her guidance.
What has changed for me after working with Yildiz?
I no longer feel the deep shame and guilt and to me this is the most precious gift.
I no longer hide, keep quiet or reduce myself in any way.”
Recovery from Sexual Assault
Why come to us? We know that you are unique. Our approaches are designed to be adaptable for safety. To assist you in rewiring your brain.
What we provide is:
- powerful
- safe
- effective
- gentle processes
- require only a few sessions
for positive outcomes.
In this we go far beyond existing traditional programs, such as:
- counselling
- talk therapies
- art therapies
- management of symptoms with cognitive behavioural therapies
- the teaching of strategies
Instead we use:
- The latest thinking in Mind Science-neuroscience and epigenetics
- Systemic Family Constellations
- Emotional Mind Integration
- Rapid Core Healing
Facts cant be changed,
But Perception and mind- body release and empowerment can.
It is true that the facts of what happened in sexual abuse and sexual assault can’t be changed. We know it has devastating effects on many levels that may last a life time. Our offering is a new and effective approach for those who are ready for change.
The intention is to assist you in regaining justice and dignity. Leave memories of sexual assault and sexual abuse where they need to be – in the past.
We can assist you in recovering from sexual abuse, sexual assault or sexual harassment in the workplace.
The need for a new approach for sexual assault recovery
There are problems with the existing treatments for sexual assault. There are many organisations that adopt the medical model approach to sexual assault and trauma. This involves long term therapies. These are often cognitive behavioural therapies, art therapies, a wide range of talk therapies, EMDR and support groups.
Re-telling the story can re-traumatise and leave the person stuck
With our way of working, people may progress over time from victim to survivor. They get on with lives to some extent. However, they often:
- suffer low self-esteem
- find it difficult to maintain good relationships
- frequently suffer depression and anxiety
- other mental health issues including substance abuse
Most Existing Treatments for Sexual Assault
There are many organisations that adopt the medical model approach to sexual assault and trauma. This involves long term therapies. These are often cognitive behavioural therapies, art therapies, a wide range of talk therapies, EMDR and support groups.
Re-telling the story can re-traumatise and leave the person stuck
With our way of working, people may progress over time from victim to survivor. They get on with lives to some extent. However, they often:
- suffer low self-esteem
- find it difficult to maintain good relationships
- frequently suffer depression and anxiety
- other mental health issues including substance abuse
Issues with traditional processes
Some victims may never have reported their abuse, while others have. Some have even gone through the court system in their attempt to find justice.
However, even in those rare cases that are successful, the people concerned still find that the memories and feelings persist. They continue to feel tainted at a deep level. They find it hard to let go of.
Many sexual abuse survivors have gone through the medical model of treatment without any relief. They believe that nothing more can be done to help them.
“Yildiz is an experienced and skilled practitioner in the trauma space. I have been a counsellor for more than a decade and this work is the fastest systemic healing I have witnessed. It reaches a level that goes beyond talk therapy, creating deep and lasting change. I highly recommend Yildiz and her work.”
Who is Yildiz Sethi?
Yildiz came from a science teaching background bringing with her a strong sense of enquiry and research and a wish to put theory in effective, practice in helping in recovery so that they could live meaningful lives. She has been in private practice since 2000 and has sought, developed and founded cutting edge ways of working with disturbances, triggers and trauma and helped countless numbers of people out of the trauma. Traumas they still held of sexual assault. She developed Emotional Mind Integration for trauma experienced within your life experience and used Family Constellations for systemic (generational trauma) and the combination Rapid Core Healing for a truly wholistic approach. Only a few sessions are required for more that 90% of the people she sees to go from victim to Thriving.
Master Counselling. Clinical Hypnotherapist. Founder of EMI
Difference Between Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse
- Sexual abuse is undesirable sexual behavior.
- Sexual assault is use of force or threat of a sexual nature
- A Sexual abuse is a breach of trust or misuse of power.
- Sexual assault is usually violent and sudden.
- A person can sexually abuse their spouse spouse or child.
- May take in a workplace, social situation or date rape or from a stranger.
- A doctor can Sexually abuse a patient.
- A sexual assault may involve unwelcome touch or penetraton.
- Sexual abuse can be verbal or visual (e.g. exposing genitals )
Sexual Abuse Recovery and current system
The problem is, deep trauma and pain are frequently repressed in the unconscious mind so is not available to the conscious mind.
Present traditional methodologies while having good intentions work with the conscious mind, thereby missing the mark in terms of working in the areas of the brain (mind) where the problems or damage are to be found.
Instead they rely on approaches that work with cognitions and behaviour(conscious elements) through talk-therapies, mainly Cognitive behavioural therapy, support groups and a range of creative therapies and mindfulness. Well meaning, but lacking the knowledge or skills of appropriate methodologies to safely locate and process problematic thoughts, emotions and trauma efficiently. Often victims remain survivors.
Methodologies created and used by Yildiz, work with the subconscious mind in a safe and non-traumatising manner. These are Emotional Mind Integrationand Rapid Core Healing. Their innovation has been informed by 19 years of my work with clients in seeking the most effective ways of working that really make a difference. These are created from the best of former psychotherapeutic techniques and Systemic Constellations and the latest in neuroscience and epigenetics. The latest findings in neuroscience show that the brain can heal as described in The Brain’s Way of Healing by psychiatrist Norman Doidge and The Science of Beliefs by cell biologist Bruce Lipton.
TYPES OF SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE WE CAN HELP WITH
You may find this hard to believe as this goes against the flow of what the medical model advocate for the treatment and recovery of sexual abuse. Give it a try.
Sexual abuse comes in many forms and here are a list of some of them and some of the impacts of sexual abuse.
Sexual abuse is common, particularly for women and girls. Ninety percent of all rapes are committed against women. One in six women have experienced rape. One in five girls and one in 20 boys experience childhood sexual abuse.
Sexual abuse and sexual assault are terms used to refer to many crimes. Some are:
- Rape
- Child molestation
- Incest
- Non-consensual sexual contact
This category includes any unwanted sexual touching, such as groping or pinching. Attempted rape can also fall into this category. - Non-contact sexual abuse
Not all sexual abuse fits neatly into common legal or psychological definitions. - Sexual abuse in the workplace
This is a difficult area as you may really like your job and don’t want to leave or there are no other jobs in your area.
The laws governing sexual abuse are constantly changing and most professionals rely on the person’s feelings, not the law, when determining whether a sexual assault has occurred. For example, marital rape can be deeply traumatic and is often part of an abusive relationship. Yet marital rape did not become a crime anywhere until the 1970s.
SEXUAL VIOLENCE IN THE MILITARY
Sexual violence occurs in the military,
- Nearly 5% of all women and 1% of all men on active duty reported experiencing unwanted sexual contact.
- Nearly half of reports from women involved penetrative sexual assault (rape or penetration with an object). This rate was 35% for men.
Due to the gender ratios in the military, more men experience sexual violence than women. A man in the military is 10 times more likely to be sexually assaulted than a civilian man.
Most perpetrators commit these crimes out of a desire for domination. Offenders often wish to establish control over their “inferiors.” Sexual attraction is rarely the motivating factor.
Sexual violence among service members is an under-reported crime. Studies suggest only one in four survivors of military sexual assault report their attacks. Among male survivors, an estimated 81% never report their attacks.
SEXUAL ABUSE IN THE WORKPLACE
People who report their assaults often face retaliation. Female victims may face retaliation. They could be shunned by colleagues or blamed for the assault. Survivors of both genders may face consequences in their professional lives. Some are even discharged or asked to move on.
Victims may face barriers to mental health treatment. You may not want to move from this job as you may like the job or there’d are shortage of jobs available in the locality.
MALE VICTIMS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE
Men who experience sexual assault can face severe stigma. In many cultures there is a belief that holds the belief that men have a right to sex and that men cannot also be victims of sexual assault.
When men report sexual assault, they often face doubt and ridicule. Others may blame the abuse on the man’s character or sexual orientation. Victim blaming is also likely when a man accuses a woman of sexual abuse.
Due to stigma, male survivors are frequently reluctant to name their experiences as rape or abuse. Some may not mention the event at all. A reluctance to disclose can prevent men from getting treatment. Without professional help, some men resort to substance abuse or self-harm.
SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE IN THE LGBTQI COMMUNITY
Sexual assault on LGBTQI individuals occur too. Hate crimes account for many sexual assaults against them.
CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE
The sexual abuse of children can take place in different ways. It may involve a stranger or someone as close as a parent. A child doesn’t need to be touched to be sexually abused. Watching a child undress or shower, count as sexual abuse. Adults who expose their genitalia to children are also committing abuse.
An adult who sexually abuses children may have a sexual attraction yet it isn’t necessary to commit abuse. A perpetrator could abuse a child to gain power over them.
Childhood sexual abuse is common.
Children who experience abuse do not always report it right away due to power the offender has over the child.
children who have been sexually abused know their attackers well. An offender will often threaten or manipulate the child to prevent them from disclosing the abuse.
Over a third of abusers are part of the child’s family.
Child targets do not disclose the abuse for a long time if ever.
Reporting sexual abuse may prevent a child from having mental health concerns in adulthood. People who experienced sexual abuse as children are at greater risk of substance abuse or eating and food issues. They are also more likely to be sexually abused as adults or become abusers themselves.
WHAT IS SEXUAL HARASSMENT?
Sexual harassment often is sexual assault. The definitions of both sexual assault and sexual harassment include non-consensual sexual contact, there are some distinct differences.
The term “sexual harassment” is often used in a legal context. sexual harassment includes:
- Unwanted sexual advances or contact
- Harassing a person on the basis of their sex
- Making offensive comments or jokes about a particular sex
- Pressure to go on a date or perform sexual favours
Sexual harassment can occur anywhere, but many of the laws that protect people who may experience sexual harassment refer to harassment in the workplace. The broader definition of sexual harassment can include cat-calling, making sexual gestures or comments toward a person, staring, referring to someone using demeaning language such as “babe” or “hunk,” and giving unwanted or personal gifts.
MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES RESULTING FROM SEXUAL ASSAULT
After sexual assault, survivors may feel their bodies are not really their own. Survivors often have feelings of shame, terror or guilt. Many blame themselves for the assault.
Due to the trauma and negative emotions survivors of sexual abuse may develop:
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Post-traumatic stress (PTSD)
- Personality
- Disruptions: e.g. borderline personality.
- Attachment issues
- Addiction
Sexual abuse does not only leave psychological scars. It can also have long-lasting health consequences. You may not feel emotionally and physically in control and not coping of what happened:
- Not wanting to eat
- Eating too much.
- Flashbacks
- Nightmares
- Mood swings
- Nausea
- Difficulty sleeping
- Feeling dirty and wanting to shower often
- Some survivors experience sexual dysfunction.
It does not have to be a life sentence. You can recover.
Sexual Abuse Explained
We can help you with a gentle, safe, efficient and quick process that doesn’t re-traumatise
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Having a mental health concern does not make you “weak” or “broken.” People cope with trauma in different ways.
Therapy with us offers a safe, private place to get help without judgement. You don’t have to be alone with this anymore.